I am going to be completely transparent. Today I want to throw in the towel, call it quits, and end my work in a developing country. Providing a program that helps people in need is hard. I would like to think that every one of the 40 students that Global Capacity supports is grateful, hard-working, moral, and honest. But I know that's not true. They don't get the best grades in school and they are not completely honest. I was reminded of this today when our partner in Rwanda, Yvonne, emailed me with the unfortunate report that one of our students has been lying to us for months now.
This student has been supported by us for close to three years now. I have pictures with him, he has sent letters and emails to me, and when I was in Rwanda I took him out to dinner for a special meal. To know that he has deliberately and repeatedly lied to my staff and to me aches deep in my heart. And it makes me wonder how many more of our students, our children who have no advocates of their own, who have been given a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to get an education through our scholarships, who we have sacrificed and gone to bat for while the citizens of their nation ignored and doubted their abilities, will do this.
And then I remember how broken our students are. How most of them have never had a parent-figure to model themselves after, to teach them right from wrong, and to instill the values that parents are supposed to instill. Most of our students are products of the genocide and were forced to grow up real fast due to their parents' death. They are now the heads of their household and had to become guardians to their younger siblings.
People programs are messy. Our scholarship program is a people program. We provide more than just school fees and materials for high school but also counseling, mentoring, and relationships. We walk with 40 students throughout their six years of high school. We lament in their sadness and struggles and celebrate in their achievements and joys. We provide counseling to them about their horrific pasts and encourage them to forge ahead into the unknown with a 1000% better outlook than they had been given.
It is their brokenness that leads them to lie to us and disobey. But does that make it ok? How much grace can you give to someone after they repeatedly lie to you and hurt you? And is grace more deserved if they hadn't had the chance to learn right from wrong or develop strong, positive character traits? How much of a person's past can you ignore to justify their current wrongdoings committed against you?
Any insight would be greatly appreciated.